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Father's Day is coming up, and I always find it strange that this day does not have the emotional charge Mother's Day has. Not even close to it. It's a casual "I-almost-forgot" day when good old dad gets a funny card or a goofy present. There is no teary-eyed (positive or negative) emotional intensity played out.
However, having worked with many clients on their father issues, I know how very important fathers are in the lives of their daughters and sons. There are all emotions present, from adoration or intense yearning to rage, and everything in between.
So, besides the funny card or dutiful phone call, you might take the chance to really think about your relationship with your father when you were a child:
Did you feel loved by him?
Did you feel unwanted?
Was he mostly absent, and if yes, how did that make you feel?
Could you talk to him about things that were important to you?
Did he make you feel safe and protected?
Was he proud of you?
Did he neglect or constantly criticize you?
Were you afraid of him?
Did you have lots of fun with him?
What is the most important thing you learned from him?
How has your relationship with him changed over the years?
Since most of you know how to do EFT, this would be a great opportunity to tap on all the hurt that comes up with any of these questions. If you have mostly positive feelings, let them warm your heart in case your father is no longer around. If he is alive: Why not express them directly on Father's Day the way mothers are shown affection.
He might have been waiting for that without even knowing it.
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